In regards to Wang Ayni's quote: I wonder how that works. And, what is extra nice? Isn't that redundant? Perhaps it means overly solicitous. If someone is overly solicitous it means that they are demanding and insistent. Apparently Over solicitous is not correct. So, how can kindness be a form of maniuplation? Perhaps it means that and extra dose of kindness, not one solicited nor expected, creates a sense of obligation to the giver.